These times do try us, and never more than during the holiday season when things are supposed to be happy and bright. A few weeks ago I threw a Level 2 tantrum when I couldn’t access the internet to get my shopping list from Safeway’s app. (I offer Sandy’s Adult Temper Tantrum Scale for your reference below). Several bad words, some yelling, and a slammed phone later, I slunk off to Safeway (having created a list from memory and then forgetting it on the kitchen counter) to brave the Saturday before Thanksgiving grocery shopping crowd. It took me the ten minute drive to the store to stop being mad at myself for acting like a loon and remind me that a) my cursing is indeed creative (go me); b) that was a ridiculous and impressive little snit fit I threw; and c) so what, I’m not perfect. I also reminded myself that I forgot to follow the pretty good advice I give my clients around the holidays/any time you have to be with your family of origin for more than 12 hours.
I offer this pretty good advice below as a reminder to myself and a ray of hope for you that there are some ways to keep the holidays (mostly) happy and bright. Unless you hate the holidays, which is legit, and in that case, these might make it less difficult to get through all the sparkle and hoopla.
Sandy’s Adult Temper Tantrum Scale
(There is no basis in science or research for this scale. I made it up and it is accurate (she said modestly). Above Level 2, consider calling a counselor for some help managing your emotions.
Level 1: Raised voice, crying, cursing, possible finger pointing and blaming
Level 2: Yelling, creative cursing, slamming items around
Level 3: Screaming, creative cursing, items valued under $100 broken
Level 4: Screaming, nasty cursing, items valued over $100 broken, cut, or burned
Level 5: Human or animal injured/police called